You know what happens when you lose weight? You’re the star of the show. Everyone goes wide-eyed when you enter the room, tells you how good you look, asks you what your secret is. You get your moment on stage where everyone stops and kisses your butt.
And then we wonder why women are so unhealthily obsessed with weight.
Look, I’m not opposed to losing weight as part of a healthy program. But I do wonder what it would be like if we had the same astonished reaction to someone wearing a button saying “I think I’m wonderful just the way I am” and everyone crowded around to tell them how sexy they were and asked them how they did it. Because there’s a constant stream of positive feedback for altering yourself to fit society’s needs, but pretty much zippo for happy self-acceptance.
You’re only sexy if you’re in flux. When you hit a “normal” weight, people stop congratulating you, stop telling you you’re amazing, stop paying attention. Is it any wonder yo-yo dieting’s a constant in life?
Is there any way we can actually get people to compliment you for who you are right now, and not just when you’ve changed significantly from last week?
Cross-posted from Ferrett's Real Blog.