Looking through swingers’ ads, there are all these couples touting, “WHO WANTS TO TAKE US FOR OUR FIRST TIME?” And judging by their follow-up posts, they get a ton of responses.
Me? I always think of FOR DUMMIES books.
See, when I used to purchase computer books for Walden’s, everyone was used to the sales pattern of other books: Stephen King’s latest novel was out! And it would sell great guns the first week, pretty good for a month, then slide downhill. If you didn’t have it in stock that first month, you missed out on something like 70% of the sales.
Computer books weren’t like that. My management would pressure me to buy thousands of copies of WINDOWS 98 FOR DUMMIES, because Windows 98 was coming out this fall and when it did, hoo boy! We’d be rolling in the dough. They were frustrated when I lowballed the inventory, even though the publishers were offering all these incentives and sales to stock our stores to the roof with WINDOWS 98 WINDOWS 98 WINDOWS 98.
The trick was this: realizing that the day that Windows 98 came out was the day that the fewest people would own Windows 98.
That first month was actually the slowest, because most people don’t buy upgrades to their PCs the way they go after a movie or a game. They get it when they get a new computer, or when a game they need demands Windows 98 to run.
So that first month of Windows 98 books was actually inevitably a slow, disappointing sale. The first three months were slow, actually, panicking the higher-ups. But as time went by, and more people converted, WINDOWS 98 FOR DUMMIES was our hands-down bestseller for 1999.
When I think of virgins, that’s what I think of: you’re the least knowledgeable you’re ever going to be about sex at that moment. It’s not a bad thing, certainly not something to be shunned…
…but I don’t get why anyone would specifically seek out virginity as a specific kink, just because they want to take that virginity. Those virgins are the new Windows 98, at their weakest; come back a year or two, when they’ve gained all this power, and it’s gonna be awesome. But now, they’re just experimenting, and chances are pretty good it’s going to end messily in one way or another as they make mistakes.
I don’t want inexperienced women sexually; I like women who’ve had a lot of sex and know what they’re doing. I don’t want inexperienced poly partners; I like women who’ve got a good handle on what they need, and have spent some time protecting their boundaries.
And yes, my first time at the club was with someone who was as inexperienced as I was, and it was awesome… But I’m pretty sure whatever I do will be even more awesome a year from now. If I was out to swing with a couple, I’d be scanning their profile to see if they were attractive, if their posts had proper grammar, if we looked like we’d be sexually compatible – and not at all allured by the promise of breaking that ground before anyone else.
I dunno. The whole virginity fetish strikes me as having this nasty undertone, the moral equivalent of fucking someone and shouting “FIRST!” in their sexual comment thread. If you want someone because they’re hot, sexy, and compelling? Great. But if you want them just because hey, you get to pop that cherry, well fuck you and keep your goddamned paws off of anyone around me.
People are people. Not records to be broken.
Cross-posted from Ferrett's Real Blog.